"He who finds a good wife finds good!", but what if she is not a good wife? What if she is a schemer, looking to take advantage of you? We are all given intuition to protect us, and when our still small inner voice screams that all is not well, then we'd better listen!
Time and again - professionally - I speak to lawyers who tell me they are convinced that women plan a divorce years ahead and then, when they feel the time is right , take some excuse of their husbands behaviour and provoke an estrangement and seperation.
The lawyers also tell me that this pre-meditation is the primary difference between men and women. A man will be "suckered" time and again bya wife who takes her time, lays her plans, gathers information against her husband in readiness for divorce and then issues the divorce petition. If there is one thing men need to do more than anyhting it is plan for divorce BEFORE it appears ove the marriage horizon.
First, even in a good marriage keep your financial details confidential. NEVER tell her all your financial secrets. Have at least one bank account she NEVER finds out about. NEVER tell her the details of your earnings or business profit. NEVER have her made a partner in your business.
Second, get a mailbox for confidential mail, including letters from the mutual fund, from the pension company and frm the bank she doesn't know about. ... AND DO NOT TELL HER ABOUT IT! Keep paying for it in cash and do not keep the receipt.
Third, if you have property investments make a division between the one's she already knows about and the one's she doesn't know about, so DO NOT tell her about every new acquisition. Keep these secrets; for the new properties use a different management agent that she knows nothing about and finance them with a different bank to the bank she knows you bank with for the properties she already knows about.
What a scheming woman will do pre-divorce is very typical. She will have been told by her lawyer not to mention divorce, rather to let it come as a surprise in due course. She will have been told to take every opportunity to gather as much information about her husbands affairs as possible, finances, business, investments and the like. Then when she has as much information as she can get, she will prompt the divorce action. This is not fiction; it i s the way scheming women make plans, pre-divorce.
Men need to take certain precautionary steps to protect themselves, again pre-divorce. Pre-divorce planning is the greatest difference between men and women today; women do it and men don't. It is the greatest need men have today.
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Showing posts with label divorce strategies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label divorce strategies. Show all posts
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Thursday, 20 December 2007
Another expensive divorce in the UK? Even after a Pre nup!
You have to feel sorry for Stuart Crossley. Not financially, he is worth around £50 million! No, for his choice in wives and his optimism!
He married Susan (nee Dean) in January 2006 having met her about 3 months previously. She had been married 3 times previously ( interestingly always to very wealthy men, thats interesting) and on each occasion had left richer than she had arrived at the altar. When she married Stuart she was worth about £20million, mostly from her last Divorce in 2000 when she'd scooped £16million from Robert Sangster, heir to the Vernon Pools Empire.
Stuart must have thought he'd protected himself by getting her to sign a pre nup in which she promised not to pursue his fortune if the marriage failed. Even though not legally binding in the U.K. a pre nup is still "taken into account" by British Courts, especially in cases like the Crossleys' where the marriage only lasted a few months! Yes, they seperated in June/July 2006 after marrying in January of that year.
I know you will be stunned to know that although Susan, as the doll she is, promised not to pursue his fortune, guess what, she is pursuing his fortune after all! She says the pre nup should not stand because he had not told her about all his assets and he has secret funds stashed in Andorra and Monaco.
Lessons to be learned? Simple.
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He married Susan (nee Dean) in January 2006 having met her about 3 months previously. She had been married 3 times previously ( interestingly always to very wealthy men, thats interesting) and on each occasion had left richer than she had arrived at the altar. When she married Stuart she was worth about £20million, mostly from her last Divorce in 2000 when she'd scooped £16million from Robert Sangster, heir to the Vernon Pools Empire.
Stuart must have thought he'd protected himself by getting her to sign a pre nup in which she promised not to pursue his fortune if the marriage failed. Even though not legally binding in the U.K. a pre nup is still "taken into account" by British Courts, especially in cases like the Crossleys' where the marriage only lasted a few months! Yes, they seperated in June/July 2006 after marrying in January of that year.
I know you will be stunned to know that although Susan, as the doll she is, promised not to pursue his fortune, guess what, she is pursuing his fortune after all! She says the pre nup should not stand because he had not told her about all his assets and he has secret funds stashed in Andorra and Monaco.
Lessons to be learned? Simple.
1. Wise men do not imagine that a leopard - or in this case a cougar - will ever change its spots!
2. Wiser men stash funds in secret because pre nups are open to challenge by an angry cougar.http://www.doctorditcher.com
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Thursday, 29 November 2007
Americans hide EVEN MORE of their assets from their partners than Britons.
Forbes recently published the results of a study of 433 U.S. citizens, whose wealth ranked between $1 million to over $10 million. One interesting finding was that 56% of women said they had hidden or protected assets from their partners, while 36% of the men said they had done so.
Note that guys, 20% more of the female of the species than the male hide assets from their Partner! Think about it!
Of those surveyed with more than $10 million, they were 3 times more likely to have hidden or protected assets than those with less than $10 million. Yes, thats right! Three times more likely! Well, when the stakes are higher, more people play!
The article went on to say that most assets were not hidden by "legal" devices, but by wealth preservation strategies - thats my bag!
To me however the most interesting factor was not commented on by the article; namely these assets were not hidden by people in the middle of divorce or marriage difficulties; no, they're hidden by ordinary - well ordinary multi-millionaires - BEFORE the s**t hits the fan. When America coughs, they say Europe gets a cold 5 years later. The way divorce settlements in the Europe and especially the U.K. are going increasingly in favour of the wife, more and more British men will catch up with the American experience and hide their assets from their partners. Watch this space......
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Note that guys, 20% more of the female of the species than the male hide assets from their Partner! Think about it!
Of those surveyed with more than $10 million, they were 3 times more likely to have hidden or protected assets than those with less than $10 million. Yes, thats right! Three times more likely! Well, when the stakes are higher, more people play!
The article went on to say that most assets were not hidden by "legal" devices, but by wealth preservation strategies - thats my bag!
To me however the most interesting factor was not commented on by the article; namely these assets were not hidden by people in the middle of divorce or marriage difficulties; no, they're hidden by ordinary - well ordinary multi-millionaires - BEFORE the s**t hits the fan. When America coughs, they say Europe gets a cold 5 years later. The way divorce settlements in the Europe and especially the U.K. are going increasingly in favour of the wife, more and more British men will catch up with the American experience and hide their assets from their partners. Watch this space......
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mailto:doctorditcher@hushmail.com
Monday, 26 November 2007
Heather Mills Rants about Rats!! It takes one to know one!
Heather Mills, or Lady McCartney to her (few) friends, has hit the headlines again for apparently urging people to try rats milk and dogs milk instead of that of cows. As a militant vegan she feels that innocent beasts are being exploited. I couldn't agree more Heather, but I think it's unfair to refer to Paul as a beast just for marrying a money grabber like you; .... and clearly whatever you drink, it has limited value to the development of any milk of human kindness so far as your husband is concerned!!!
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Saturday, 17 November 2007
Asset and wealth protection and planning for men in divorce and separation.
Mine is a subversive business. I am totally prejudiced, one sided and one sided only; I work in the UK, Europe and the USA representing men - only men. Read my profile and you'll see my primary objective is asset protection for the male species! Thats what I specialise in, Asset Protection Planning and privacy for men.
I had a wake up call when my wife and I broke up and she engaged a Rotweiler of a Lawyer. I got a letter from them threatening me with an injunction the same day as she and I had arranged to go to counselling to try for reconciliation. That was just the beginning of the worst two years of my life. I had been married for 18 years, children, mortgage, partnership in a top 25 City Law firm in London. For the next 6 months I spent every night with my Legal team, usually until 2 or 3 in the morning drafting affidavits, protecting assets and responding to the next risk of commercial castration by the constant threat of Injunction. It was awful. I realised very quickly that at that stage, in the middle of a divorce, it was too late to do divorce planning.
Eventually we settled down into what I call “normal” litigation; routine hearings, whining and name calling. The biggest surprise was how she did all those things that professionally I had known “other” women do, but because of the life we’d lived together I never believed she would do. I was wrong. I just wish I had done a little pre divorce planning or prepared a divorce and asset protection strategy before I got to that stage. Wealth protection doesn't just happen, it needs preparation. The irony is because of my professional work I could have given myself some excellent wealth protection advice BEFORE the s**t hit the fan, if I had known.
She started using access to the kids as leverage; she visited my blood family and tried to ruin my reputation with them, she even visited my business Bankers telling them we were about to go to court and she would be taking me for a lot of money, not something that gave them confidence in trusting me with continuance of Banking arrangements I had in place. Inside 48 hours I had lost over £2million in commercial facilities previously available to me. She did all this was while I was still meeting ALL the household expenses and paying the kids private school fees and her the same huge amount as when we had been together.
It became clear to me this was only about one thing, trying to extract continuing control over me. Even women you think you know will go for your balls via your wallet if you relationship goes sour. Hearing that from an experienced divorce lawyer is too late if he's acting for you at the time!!
I truly believe that most men are straightforward and simple in their approach. They are by nature rational beings but this means they are at a disadvantage in legal show-downs with an ex-partner. Whether it is insecurity or fear the woman will nearly always take the cautious approach as recommended by her divorce lawyer and go for the jugular so a man is left floundering, reacting rather than pro-actively planning for the war that will always follow a break-up. This can be fatal in the UK and the US which are two of the most unsympathetic legal systems from a mans point of view. Men often make the mistake of thinking that if they get a good divorce lawyer that is the best they can do and they'll be O.K. -WRONG!!!!! A lawyer, no matter how good, is only like a mortician, presenting corrupted flesh in the best way possible, they're not able to reverse the process to save anything!!
I left my partnership in the London firm and started “Doctor Ditcher”. I admit it is an obvious play on words, but it reflects my approach that men really need to wake up and smell the roses! If a man engages me I show him a number of simple strategies for asset and wealth protection and to preserve his privacy. Knowledge is key and I show men how to protect their privacy and deprive the woman and her lawyers of information. Divorce planning and divorce strategies must happen pre event to be most effective.
For some clients I am retained for two years to get them through what can be the roughest time of their lives. Sometimes I am the only person they can talk to openly. I try to be a man’s one true friend. I give help for men, including asset protection secrets and strategies, sometimes off-shore.
I treat all my clients with the same degree of confidentiality as if I were still a lawyer. Also, it is important my involvement remains unknown or it could lead to a woman going back to court in a fishing expedition. Knowing I am involved means they know the man is protecting his ass!
Most of my clients are ordinary men, usually professional or with good jobs or their own business and they just don’t want to hand over 50% or more to someone simply because they’ve been having sex with them for some years. Marriage isn’t meant to be like prostitution yet ironically, the courts increasingly treat it as a commercial relationship where if you didn’t negotiate the cost up front they say 50% of all you have sounds fair enough! Indeed if the court calculates a mans worth favourably to the wife and, for example, doesn’t take account of some liabilities because her lawyers successfully argue they shouldn’t, he can end up paying her more than 50%! This happens surprisingly frequently.
I can give divorce advice and tips, but many others give male divorce advice as well. Uniquely however I can advise how to hide assets and money BEFORE a divorce happens as well as helping through the whole divorce and relationship breakdown. This is a field where planning and preparation are vital. I have clients who know things are not good in their relationship, but working with me in the background they stay with their women until their affairs are prepared for D Day – “Ditch Her Day” as I call it!”
As a retired lawyer I can still advise in the background and help a man deal with his own legal team if lawyers are involved. No one understands a fox like a fox!
The legal process is like a game of chess. If you don’t move your men the right way they won’t be as strong in the game as they could be. To most lawyers you are just another case. If they can dispose of your case and get their fees for less effort, then have no doubt, they will! Sometimes you need to play your own legal team. You are the only person truly on your side, well, you and me! The best wealth protection advice I can give a man is to prepare before he thinks it is needed.
If you feel you need help, I can be the best friend you will ever have and the only one you really need;
View my website; http://www.doctorditcher.com/
mailto: doctorditcher@hushmail.com
I had a wake up call when my wife and I broke up and she engaged a Rotweiler of a Lawyer. I got a letter from them threatening me with an injunction the same day as she and I had arranged to go to counselling to try for reconciliation. That was just the beginning of the worst two years of my life. I had been married for 18 years, children, mortgage, partnership in a top 25 City Law firm in London. For the next 6 months I spent every night with my Legal team, usually until 2 or 3 in the morning drafting affidavits, protecting assets and responding to the next risk of commercial castration by the constant threat of Injunction. It was awful. I realised very quickly that at that stage, in the middle of a divorce, it was too late to do divorce planning.
Eventually we settled down into what I call “normal” litigation; routine hearings, whining and name calling. The biggest surprise was how she did all those things that professionally I had known “other” women do, but because of the life we’d lived together I never believed she would do. I was wrong. I just wish I had done a little pre divorce planning or prepared a divorce and asset protection strategy before I got to that stage. Wealth protection doesn't just happen, it needs preparation. The irony is because of my professional work I could have given myself some excellent wealth protection advice BEFORE the s**t hit the fan, if I had known.
She started using access to the kids as leverage; she visited my blood family and tried to ruin my reputation with them, she even visited my business Bankers telling them we were about to go to court and she would be taking me for a lot of money, not something that gave them confidence in trusting me with continuance of Banking arrangements I had in place. Inside 48 hours I had lost over £2million in commercial facilities previously available to me. She did all this was while I was still meeting ALL the household expenses and paying the kids private school fees and her the same huge amount as when we had been together.
It became clear to me this was only about one thing, trying to extract continuing control over me. Even women you think you know will go for your balls via your wallet if you relationship goes sour. Hearing that from an experienced divorce lawyer is too late if he's acting for you at the time!!
I truly believe that most men are straightforward and simple in their approach. They are by nature rational beings but this means they are at a disadvantage in legal show-downs with an ex-partner. Whether it is insecurity or fear the woman will nearly always take the cautious approach as recommended by her divorce lawyer and go for the jugular so a man is left floundering, reacting rather than pro-actively planning for the war that will always follow a break-up. This can be fatal in the UK and the US which are two of the most unsympathetic legal systems from a mans point of view. Men often make the mistake of thinking that if they get a good divorce lawyer that is the best they can do and they'll be O.K. -WRONG!!!!! A lawyer, no matter how good, is only like a mortician, presenting corrupted flesh in the best way possible, they're not able to reverse the process to save anything!!
I left my partnership in the London firm and started “Doctor Ditcher”. I admit it is an obvious play on words, but it reflects my approach that men really need to wake up and smell the roses! If a man engages me I show him a number of simple strategies for asset and wealth protection and to preserve his privacy. Knowledge is key and I show men how to protect their privacy and deprive the woman and her lawyers of information. Divorce planning and divorce strategies must happen pre event to be most effective.
For some clients I am retained for two years to get them through what can be the roughest time of their lives. Sometimes I am the only person they can talk to openly. I try to be a man’s one true friend. I give help for men, including asset protection secrets and strategies, sometimes off-shore.
I treat all my clients with the same degree of confidentiality as if I were still a lawyer. Also, it is important my involvement remains unknown or it could lead to a woman going back to court in a fishing expedition. Knowing I am involved means they know the man is protecting his ass!
Most of my clients are ordinary men, usually professional or with good jobs or their own business and they just don’t want to hand over 50% or more to someone simply because they’ve been having sex with them for some years. Marriage isn’t meant to be like prostitution yet ironically, the courts increasingly treat it as a commercial relationship where if you didn’t negotiate the cost up front they say 50% of all you have sounds fair enough! Indeed if the court calculates a mans worth favourably to the wife and, for example, doesn’t take account of some liabilities because her lawyers successfully argue they shouldn’t, he can end up paying her more than 50%! This happens surprisingly frequently.
I can give divorce advice and tips, but many others give male divorce advice as well. Uniquely however I can advise how to hide assets and money BEFORE a divorce happens as well as helping through the whole divorce and relationship breakdown. This is a field where planning and preparation are vital. I have clients who know things are not good in their relationship, but working with me in the background they stay with their women until their affairs are prepared for D Day – “Ditch Her Day” as I call it!”
As a retired lawyer I can still advise in the background and help a man deal with his own legal team if lawyers are involved. No one understands a fox like a fox!
The legal process is like a game of chess. If you don’t move your men the right way they won’t be as strong in the game as they could be. To most lawyers you are just another case. If they can dispose of your case and get their fees for less effort, then have no doubt, they will! Sometimes you need to play your own legal team. You are the only person truly on your side, well, you and me! The best wealth protection advice I can give a man is to prepare before he thinks it is needed.
If you feel you need help, I can be the best friend you will ever have and the only one you really need;
View my website; http://www.doctorditcher.com/
mailto: doctorditcher@hushmail.com
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